Never condemn! I may be right in many ways and it's simply because the situation in this world makes one seek one's interest most of the time.
Life may have treated you fairly; you have had a beautiful childhood, successful marriage, beautiful, intelligent and healthy children, excellent career and a supportive family. It may not be the same in my world.
Before you think of condemning my situation of failing in the areas where you have succeeded, ask yourself if you would have handled it the way I have without having all that you have. Probably, the stigma alone would have been suicidal for you.
When you have what society lauds, do not find it deficient in another. Rather be encouraging, a shoulder to the 'victim.'
To you, do not let issues of societal demands break you down... You need yourself to drive the car everyone is asking you to buy, you need yourself to enjoy the marriage everyone is asking you to be in, you need yourself to work towards the promotion you seek, you need yourself to have the children you desire to raise. Take care of your happiness first. People will condemn regardless. REMEMBER, YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE.